Love. It is not something that can be grown. It sparks at the most unexpected moment.
One who loves would naturally find himself thinking about her all the time, wanting to furnish her with everything she sets her eyes on, whatever it takes. When she cries, your heart feels as if it is being slashed by hundreds of knives, the pain of not being able to help, and the guilt of failing to fulfill your promise to make her happy at all time. All her little flaws would be adorable to you. Her bigger flaws would be the drive to change yourself for her better enjoyment.
Who ever said love is simple is one big liar. It’s so complicated I think most people squeeze their brain juice over it. It requires a lot more than what we watch on the tv: commitment, trust, tolerance, sacrifice, time and the list goes on. Hard work would be vital in order to keep love strong, because kid me not, everything becomes dull at one point.
You cannot measure love nor calculate what’s fair or not. No one cares that you have invested years or thousands of dollars, if love has vanished, it has. So even though “to let go/ move on” may be easier said than done, it is the only thing you can do.
It may be said that we should all fall in love without letting anything hold us back, after all, what do we have to lose? But that’s not entirely true. You would experience your most horrible feeling, when all your efforts end up fruitless. Also sad but true, it does leave behind memories or sometimes traumas which are hard to get over.
But what is there to do? You cannot stop yourself from falling for someone, yet when they don’t feel the same, you cannot force your love on them. And vice versa.
For a noob I’d say just go with the flow, and wait wait wait! When the day comes, you will know and you will not hold back again and you will not regret because it is what you feel.
ps: And an “I love you” is simply insufficient because people say and hear it so easily today. Things other than that are the ones to determine whether or not a person deserves more than another.