This month has not been a cup of hot tea for me. It has not even tried to be ice tea at all. It just went under the bottom. NO TEA!!!
First I knocked on the door of depression, yes that is no big deal it happens every month. It is like a visitor I am always expecting.
Though as I was leaving without saying goodbye, my house caught fire. I lost my kitchen… Don’t play with gas!!!
As I was recovering from that, my childhood friend drowned and my good buddy from college died of cancer.
Now how have I stayed in control, you ask.
I accepted that I was stressed and depressed. So I let the depression take it’s course.
Then I decided to stay away from things I couldn’t predict their outcomes.
Finally the negative emotions and frustrations. You can’t have one and not the other. So no matter how much I tried to embrace them because they felt comfortable, I still had to act upon them and move on. Shit happens and the world was not standing for me.
For the purpose of this blog, I decided to find other resources that could build it up and provide more help to you ;
Here is Deepak Chopra‘s points on How to Keep in Control
- Don’t shut out the stress that is throwing you out of balance.
- Don’t shut down emotionally. Your body always knows if you are angry, anxious, or resentful, and it reacts negatively in various ways.
- Don’t go passive and slack. This only makes mind and body become dull, reducing your ability to act when the time for action arises.
- Don’t become a control freak, someone who is critical, demanding, a perfectionist who constantly finds fault. Control freaks are trying to clamp down on externals while ignoring the real problem, which is inside themselves.
- Don’t become a slave to rigid routines and ways of thinking. Rigidity feels like control but turns out to be lonely, isolating, and a cause of stress for those who interact with you.
- Don’t mistake control for harsh self-discipline or dominating others.
What to do to keep in control
- Look carefully at the daily stresses in your life and address them.
- Examine if you are adding to the stress in your surroundings. If so, take steps to put an end to it.
- Be aware of your feelings, especially the negative ones, and take active steps to improve them.
- Follow a routine that keeps your body in a healthy state of balance, which means at a minimum adequate sleep, regular meals, and avoiding toxins like alcohol and tobacco.
- Be active. Mild physical activity at least once an hour, such as standing up and stretching, has been shown to keep the body in a state of homeostasis.
- Recognize the frustrations you face and do what it takes to resolve them.
Hope this was helpful, if so please share it . Thanks.